Comments on: How to Get Your Son to Behave at Swim School http://www.steve-olson.com/how-to-get-your-son-to-behave-at-swim-school-and-perform-other-miracles/ On a Quest for Personal Freedom Fri, 08 Aug 2008 00:36:05 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: minntc http://www.steve-olson.com/how-to-get-your-son-to-behave-at-swim-school-and-perform-other-miracles/#comment-1949 minntc Sat, 02 Dec 2006 18:04:32 +0000 http://www.steve-olson.com/how-to-get-your-son-to-behave-at-swim-school-and-perform-other-miracles/#comment-1949 Steve, As a non-parent, but one who tends to work well with children almost universally, I would like to point out that in performing these exercises, as your son had a tantrum, and as others were probably providing attention, you were not outwardly reacting to his tantrum. Which, in turn, probably led all the others in the pool to turn their attention back to the teacher. Which deprived your son of the attention. This probably had a lot to do with his change in behavior. That being said, I am aware of how perceptive the average child is. Your tension may be enough to cause him to react. His reaction may be unconscious, but if you look at a child that acts out consistently, I think you'll see a similar correllation to the parent's attitude or reaction. I know I watched this cascading effect every time my parents (or I, for that matter) and my younger brother clashed. Child does something, parent reacts, child reacts, parent...ad nauseum. But perhaps I'll talk to you again once I have children of my own with some adjusted attitudes... Steve,

As a non-parent, but one who tends to work well with children almost universally, I would like to point out that in performing these exercises, as your son had a tantrum, and as others were probably providing attention, you were not outwardly reacting to his tantrum. Which, in turn, probably led all the others in the pool to turn their attention back to the teacher. Which deprived your son of the attention. This probably had a lot to do with his change in behavior.

That being said, I am aware of how perceptive the average child is. Your tension may be enough to cause him to react. His reaction may be unconscious, but if you look at a child that acts out consistently, I think you’ll see a similar correllation to the parent’s attitude or reaction. I know I watched this cascading effect every time my parents (or I, for that matter) and my younger brother clashed. Child does something, parent reacts, child reacts, parent…ad nauseum.

But perhaps I’ll talk to you again once I have children of my own with some adjusted attitudes…

]]> By: CultivateGreatness http://www.steve-olson.com/how-to-get-your-son-to-behave-at-swim-school-and-perform-other-miracles/#comment-1257 CultivateGreatness Wed, 15 Nov 2006 05:23:11 +0000 http://www.steve-olson.com/how-to-get-your-son-to-behave-at-swim-school-and-perform-other-miracles/#comment-1257 Tremendous post, Steve. I too, have a 5 year old son, who is very bright and sometimes likes to control situations. He is a young champion though, I can see it in his eyes. He actually told me, Dad, Im gonna win the World Series someday. And of course, I encouraged him about believing in oneself and having faith in your goals... Kids are such an amazing thing... and such an amazing challenge. Sounds like you are doing something right! Raising kids is tough, but wow! Isnt it such a rewarding experience? Much love- tw Tremendous post, Steve. I too, have a 5 year old son, who is very bright and sometimes likes to control situations. He is a young champion though, I can see it in his eyes. He actually told me, Dad, Im gonna win the World Series someday. And of course, I encouraged him about believing in oneself and having faith in your goals… Kids are such an amazing thing… and such an amazing challenge.

Sounds like you are doing something right! Raising kids is tough, but wow! Isnt it such a rewarding experience?

Much love-

tw

]]> By: kailani http://www.steve-olson.com/how-to-get-your-son-to-behave-at-swim-school-and-perform-other-miracles/#comment-1203 kailani Tue, 14 Nov 2006 08:40:29 +0000 http://www.steve-olson.com/how-to-get-your-son-to-behave-at-swim-school-and-perform-other-miracles/#comment-1203 I know of a few parents at my daughter's swimming class that could benefit from your post! LOL! I'm glad it worked for you! Here via Carnival of Family Life. I know of a few parents at my daughter’s swimming class that could benefit from your post! LOL! I’m glad it worked for you!

Here via Carnival of Family Life.

]]> By: Holly Schwendiman http://www.steve-olson.com/how-to-get-your-son-to-behave-at-swim-school-and-perform-other-miracles/#comment-1151 Holly Schwendiman Mon, 13 Nov 2006 17:13:47 +0000 http://www.steve-olson.com/how-to-get-your-son-to-behave-at-swim-school-and-perform-other-miracles/#comment-1151 Way to go dad. A+ for you on multiple levels. Swimming is one of the all-time BEST activities for a child like you've described. It saved me with my high spirited and controlling daughter. ;o) And the acknowledgement of our stress affecting the situtation for good or bad is so important! Thanks for sharing! Hugs, Holly <a href="http://www.hollyscorner.com" rel="nofollow">Holly's Corner</a> Here via the Carnival of Family Fun ;o) Way to go dad. A+ for you on multiple levels. Swimming is one of the all-time BEST activities for a child like you’ve described. It saved me with my high spirited and controlling daughter. ;o) And the acknowledgement of our stress affecting the situtation for good or bad is so important! Thanks for sharing!

Hugs,
Holly
Holly’s Corner
Here via the Carnival of Family Fun ;o)

]]> By: Michelle http://www.steve-olson.com/how-to-get-your-son-to-behave-at-swim-school-and-perform-other-miracles/#comment-1042 Michelle Fri, 10 Nov 2006 06:02:13 +0000 http://www.steve-olson.com/how-to-get-your-son-to-behave-at-swim-school-and-perform-other-miracles/#comment-1042 I learned lamaze during pregnancy and still use it whenever I'm stressed or full of tension. It's amazing how focusing inwardly can change your surroundings. Nice post. I learned lamaze during pregnancy and still use it whenever I’m stressed or full of tension. It’s amazing how focusing inwardly can change your surroundings. Nice post.

]]> By: Dave http://www.steve-olson.com/how-to-get-your-son-to-behave-at-swim-school-and-perform-other-miracles/#comment-932 Dave Mon, 06 Nov 2006 21:08:56 +0000 http://www.steve-olson.com/how-to-get-your-son-to-behave-at-swim-school-and-perform-other-miracles/#comment-932 Wonderful post. "One step at a time, one person, one conscious reality, and so on" is what my wife reminds me of daily. Best wishes. Wonderful post. “One step at a time, one person, one conscious reality, and so on” is what my wife reminds me of daily. Best wishes.

]]> By: Chris http://www.steve-olson.com/how-to-get-your-son-to-behave-at-swim-school-and-perform-other-miracles/#comment-929 Chris Mon, 06 Nov 2006 16:16:32 +0000 http://www.steve-olson.com/how-to-get-your-son-to-behave-at-swim-school-and-perform-other-miracles/#comment-929 Steve, I can relate to the stress you felt not wanting there to be another scene. And then to have the scene change so 'miraculously' ... It's these kinds of events in our lives that have the most impact over whatever we read about. But it would never happen unless we 'give it a try'. Thanks for the story, -Chris Steve,

I can relate to the stress you felt not wanting there to be another scene. And then to have the scene change so ‘miraculously’ … It’s these kinds of events in our lives that have the most impact over whatever we read about. But it would never happen unless we ‘give it a try’.

Thanks for the story,
-Chris

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