Comments on: Can you See Yourself as Others Do? http://www.steve-olson.com/can-you-see-yourself-as-others-do/ On a Quest for Personal Freedom Thu, 28 Aug 2008 17:59:33 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: princess sarah http://www.steve-olson.com/can-you-see-yourself-as-others-do/#comment-87628 princess sarah Fri, 04 Apr 2008 06:17:37 +0000 http://www.steve-olson.com/can-you-see-yourself-as-others-do/#comment-87628 actually that was really a great post steve and i was really amazed, but u know what i think that if we reverse that all round, i mean not viewing ourselves from people point of view BUT making them view us from our own perspective , and so begin to force people to treat us the way we wanna it to be, making them learn how they should respect me for who i am and treat me like a princess, just as i can see myself and as i act ofcourse, and after that you may see how much will do what you wanna them to do for you and how much crossed that line, and begin to ask why at that instance but at that time its supposed to be peoples fault, orelse maybe you didnt convince yourself that you are really a precious , important and respected humanbeing , to convince them about it that much ?! anyway i would really appreciate it if you would see my point and reply me back, iam a new writer, and thats all from my mind, not based on any theories ! actually that was really a great post steve and i was really amazed, but u know what i think that if we reverse that all round, i mean not viewing ourselves from people point of view BUT making them view us from our own perspective , and so begin to force people to treat us the way we wanna it to be, making them learn how they should respect me for who i am and treat me like a princess, just as i can see myself and as i act ofcourse, and after that you may see how much will do what you wanna them to do for you and how much crossed that line, and begin to ask why at that instance but at that time its supposed to be peoples fault, orelse maybe you didnt convince yourself that you are really a precious , important and respected humanbeing , to convince them about it that much ?! anyway i would really appreciate it if you would see my point and reply me back, iam a new writer, and thats all from my mind, not based on any theories !

]]> By: Steve Olson. Com | Freelancing Journey http://www.steve-olson.com/can-you-see-yourself-as-others-do/#comment-38722 Steve Olson. Com | Freelancing Journey Tue, 28 Aug 2007 14:33:40 +0000 http://www.steve-olson.com/can-you-see-yourself-as-others-do/#comment-38722 [...] Steve Olson. Com Ever since I blogged for B5Media on personal development I have been keeping up with blogs for entrepreneurs, business owners, and anyone else who really needs to keep a positive attitude. One blog I discovered this morning is Steve Olson’s. I really like this post asking if you see yourself as others see you. Great stuff. If we could give ourselves a break long enough to actual see the way other people view us we would often more than not find that we are pretty damned special. But most of us are too busy picking on ourselves for our weaknesses instead of concentrating on our strengths. Reading blogs like Steve’s can help us to remember not to listen to those negative voices inside of us. Bookmark to: Thank you for reading this post. You can now Leave A Comment (0) or Leave A Trackback. [...] [...] Steve Olson. Com Ever since I blogged for B5Media on personal development I have been keeping up with blogs for entrepreneurs, business owners, and anyone else who really needs to keep a positive attitude. One blog I discovered this morning is Steve Olson’s. I really like this post asking if you see yourself as others see you. Great stuff. If we could give ourselves a break long enough to actual see the way other people view us we would often more than not find that we are pretty damned special. But most of us are too busy picking on ourselves for our weaknesses instead of concentrating on our strengths. Reading blogs like Steve’s can help us to remember not to listen to those negative voices inside of us. Bookmark to: Thank you for reading this post. You can now Leave A Comment (0) or Leave A Trackback. [...]

]]> By: Build Your Life To Order ™ | Speedlinking - 19 August 2007 http://www.steve-olson.com/can-you-see-yourself-as-others-do/#comment-36685 Build Your Life To Order ™ | Speedlinking - 19 August 2007 Sun, 19 Aug 2007 18:29:30 +0000 http://www.steve-olson.com/can-you-see-yourself-as-others-do/#comment-36685 [...] Steve Olson has asked, ‘Can you see yourself as Others Do?‘ This is great because we all have our own subjective perspective. Again in NLP lingo we say, “The map is not the territory.” The territory is external objectivity, the map is our own interpretation of that reality. No-one on this earth is ’seeing reality as it is‘ - NO-ONE. Steve says, [...] [...] Steve Olson has asked, ‘Can you see yourself as Others Do?‘ This is great because we all have our own subjective perspective. Again in NLP lingo we say, “The map is not the territory.” The territory is external objectivity, the map is our own interpretation of that reality. No-one on this earth is ’seeing reality as it is‘ - NO-ONE. Steve says, [...]

]]> By: Evolving Times » 16 Personal Development Lessons From Harry Potter http://www.steve-olson.com/can-you-see-yourself-as-others-do/#comment-36189 Evolving Times » 16 Personal Development Lessons From Harry Potter Thu, 16 Aug 2007 17:45:02 +0000 http://www.steve-olson.com/can-you-see-yourself-as-others-do/#comment-36189 [...] 3. Acknowledging Your Weaknesses Can Be More Important Than Increasing Your Strengths. Voldemort’s downfall was his unwillingness to acknowledge his weaknesses. He was convinced that by increasing his power he would be able to overcome anything and everyone. Ultimately it was his inability to see his weakness that led to his end. While focusing exclusively on our weaknesses is not healthy or helpful, ignoring them is equally foolish. Know your strengths. Empower them and make them stronger. But also acknowledge and accept your weaknesses. Strengthen those that can be strengthened and ask for help and support with those that cannot be. Ignore your weaknesses at your own peril. [...] [...] 3. Acknowledging Your Weaknesses Can Be More Important Than Increasing Your Strengths. Voldemort’s downfall was his unwillingness to acknowledge his weaknesses. He was convinced that by increasing his power he would be able to overcome anything and everyone. Ultimately it was his inability to see his weakness that led to his end. While focusing exclusively on our weaknesses is not healthy or helpful, ignoring them is equally foolish. Know your strengths. Empower them and make them stronger. But also acknowledge and accept your weaknesses. Strengthen those that can be strengthened and ask for help and support with those that cannot be. Ignore your weaknesses at your own peril. [...]

]]> By: Edmund Snyder http://www.steve-olson.com/can-you-see-yourself-as-others-do/#comment-36103 Edmund Snyder Thu, 16 Aug 2007 00:30:22 +0000 http://www.steve-olson.com/can-you-see-yourself-as-others-do/#comment-36103 I already know that I'm most own worst critic. Deep inside, I know I'm a great guy, liked by most, loved by many. Due to persecution similar to that your wife went through in public schools, it pretty much stays deep down because the surface Ed is actually somewhat insecure. As far as changing the bad habits and destructive behaviours that I have--unfortunately laziness is chief among them which makes it difficult to cure any of the other issues. Fortunately, none of my issues are very severe. Another good entry, Steve. I already know that I’m most own worst critic. Deep inside, I know I’m a great guy, liked by most, loved by many. Due to persecution similar to that your wife went through in public schools, it pretty much stays deep down because the surface Ed is actually somewhat insecure.

As far as changing the bad habits and destructive behaviours that I have–unfortunately laziness is chief among them which makes it difficult to cure any of the other issues. Fortunately, none of my issues are very severe.

Another good entry, Steve.

]]> By: Craig Harper http://www.steve-olson.com/can-you-see-yourself-as-others-do/#comment-36007 Craig Harper Wed, 15 Aug 2007 12:28:47 +0000 http://www.steve-olson.com/can-you-see-yourself-as-others-do/#comment-36007 "We don't see things as they are; we see things as we are". Anais Nin was spot on when she made the above observation. 1. I need to listen more than I speak. 2. I need to talk with people, not at them. 3. In order for me to be able to genuinely connect with people, I need to know how they see the world (or at least try). 4. I will learn more about someone by watching than I will by listening to them (93% of communication is non-verbal). 5. Many people will tell me what they think I want to hear. 6. I can't impose my values, beliefs or opinions on people. 7. I can have the best motives and intentions... and still hurt and offend people. “We don’t see things as they are; we see things as we are”.
Anais Nin was spot on when she made the above observation.
1. I need to listen more than I speak.
2. I need to talk with people, not at them.
3. In order for me to be able to genuinely connect with people, I need to know how they see the world (or at least try).
4. I will learn more about someone by watching than I will by listening to them
(93% of communication is non-verbal).
5. Many people will tell me what they think I want to hear.
6. I can’t impose my values, beliefs or opinions on people.
7. I can have the best motives and intentions… and still hurt and offend people.

]]> By: Carl of PseudoPower http://www.steve-olson.com/can-you-see-yourself-as-others-do/#comment-35971 Carl of PseudoPower Wed, 15 Aug 2007 05:34:33 +0000 http://www.steve-olson.com/can-you-see-yourself-as-others-do/#comment-35971 Now this one hits home! I have a friend who is the same way. He believes everyone in the past has hurt him when it's really him that's causing it all. I've tried to show him this, but I fear it's too late. :( Now this one hits home!

I have a friend who is the same way. He believes everyone in the past has hurt him when it’s really him that’s causing it all.

I’ve tried to show him this, but I fear it’s too late.

:(

]]> By: LISA http://www.steve-olson.com/can-you-see-yourself-as-others-do/#comment-35923 LISA Tue, 14 Aug 2007 22:01:09 +0000 http://www.steve-olson.com/can-you-see-yourself-as-others-do/#comment-35923 Excellent post Steve. I will be interested in following the many discoveries on your path to self awareness. Excellent post Steve.
I will be interested in following the many discoveries on your path to self awareness.

]]> By: letters http://www.steve-olson.com/can-you-see-yourself-as-others-do/#comment-35840 letters Tue, 14 Aug 2007 17:27:24 +0000 http://www.steve-olson.com/can-you-see-yourself-as-others-do/#comment-35840 A couple things came to mind while reading through this: - an oft-quoted line from Robbie Burns: O would some Power the gift to give us To see ourselves as others see us! I also thought of my favourite definition of insanity: doing the same thing over and over, expecting a better result each time. You haven't mentioned the role of personality disorders in the way people act the way they do. You have touched on a lot of narcissistic personality disorder traits in the people you've described. I'm subscribing to your feed and looking forward to more. cheers, ian in hamburg A couple things came to mind while reading through this:
- an oft-quoted line from Robbie Burns:

O would some Power the gift to give us
To see ourselves as others see us!

I also thought of my favourite definition of insanity: doing the same thing over and over, expecting a better result each time.

You haven’t mentioned the role of personality disorders in the way people act the way they do. You have touched on a lot of narcissistic personality disorder traits in the people you’ve described.

I’m subscribing to your feed and looking forward to more.
cheers,
ian in hamburg

]]> By: Nneka | Spirituality Blog http://www.steve-olson.com/can-you-see-yourself-as-others-do/#comment-35820 Nneka | Spirituality Blog Tue, 14 Aug 2007 14:02:46 +0000 http://www.steve-olson.com/can-you-see-yourself-as-others-do/#comment-35820 Steve, this is so true. KimBooSan made a good point, that it's not so much about seeing yourself how others see you, but using the feedback that you're getting to look within and take responsibility for your part. It's a very difficult thing to do because you realize that you are flawed, that the world isn't black and white. On the other hand, only looking at what people see presents a problem, as their perceptions are just that, perceptions. They are shaped by their thought patterns and experiences. It's a tough line to walk. In Spirit, Nneka Steve, this is so true. KimBooSan made a good point, that it’s not so much about seeing yourself how others see you, but using the feedback that you’re getting to look within and take responsibility for your part. It’s a very difficult thing to do because you realize that you are flawed, that the world isn’t black and white.

On the other hand, only looking at what people see presents a problem, as their perceptions are just that, perceptions. They are shaped by their thought patterns and experiences.

It’s a tough line to walk.

In Spirit,
Nneka

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